There Is A Better Way

Sleep More Worry Less

Is it Thanksgiving already? I went shopping late yesterday and missed most of the basic craziness. That’s a good thing. I’m sure a few items were missed so hitting the stores over the next couple hours is certain to take place.

An additional certainty in my life is how I treat and study the markets. Remember I look first to one’s “emotional intelligence” before everything else. The markets are a reflection of how people think so it fits together well. It’s also the first chapter of my initial book. “The Trader’s Bible” so I’m a teacher of my word. With a mere 55+ years of experience I’ve learned a few things. You should too so here it goes

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Emotional Intelligence

The most emotionally intelligent people have the rare ability to acknowledge not just their own emotions, but the emotions of others. They use this information to engage the people around them bringing everyone together. Most everyone appreciates being acknowledged for something they did well and have pride in. If you act in this manner with sincerity you will be remembered in a positive light. That’s a good thing.

When you argue with someone or make them feel coerced, they will naturally become defensive and erect barriers. This works against your persuasive efforts. Instead, allow for the other person to feel that they are in control of the situation by inviting them to talk while you actively listen. It’s a better way to gain another’s respect that people do no use in today’s interactions. You don’t have to agree but you do need to listen.

Mentally tough people hang out with other positive-thinking individuals with whom they share common goals. They support and celebrate each other and especially their achievements. Negative people drain your energy. When you’re around them, do your best to tune out the noise and limit your interaction. Turn a deaf ear; it works too.

Listen Twice As Much As You Talk

Have you ever spoken with someone who was distracted, glancing at other people in a crowd, or checking their watch while you were speaking? You more than likely believe you were not important, right?. Focus squarely as others offer their opinions, smiling and making eye contact as much as possible. People appreciate the interest shown.

When you meet someone for the first time, repeat their name and use that throughout the conversation. Remember things like that are important, such as the names of their partner, children, pets or favorite vacation spots. By doing so and mentioning them at appropriate times the next time you see them, you’ll stand out. Do you know the date when they were born or their “sign”? Learn it; every little bit helps.

Emotionally intelligent people try to listen and discern more about a situation. They ask questions that allow the other person an opportunity to better express themselves and understand how he or she is acting and feeling. Your questions do open a pathway for more meaningful conversation and resolution.

Just a few hints that work and I’m a walking history of emotional intelligence working for everyone and everything. I would be remiss in not mentioning today that it’s been 60 years since President Kennedy was assassinated. Few people I’m speak with today remember that event. Some still argue about a second gunman on the “grassy knoll”. It doesn’t really matter; remembering does. The event changed the world.

Back to getting ready for Thanksgiving and that means doing everything I promised to do instead of finishing up the book. Tomorrow is a cooking day as whomever wants to join with us can and will. It’s fun and I hope all of you are enjoying the holiday.

It doesn’t matter who you are or what you believe, if you are an American today is a day of thanks. We have one hell of a country here as evidenced by the sheer number of people who have arrived on our shores and continue to come in droves. Like any other country ours is not without problems but it is still the best place to live on earth. Take the time to appreciate what you have and to determine what you want going forward. The tens of thousands of you that “tune in” regularly to read what I write are sincerely appreciated, thanks and my best to you for a happy, healthy holiday.